About Rant

I got into an argument with my husband one day years ago. I don't remember what it was about now, but at the time I remember feeling an increased heart rate, tight chest, tense muscles, and overall unease. I was dysregulated. I was stressed. I was hurt.

I decided to get some space and call my friend for support and talk it out with someone who would be objective. A third-party. I filled her in on what I said, what he said, what I said in response, etc.  Afterwards, she gave me her thoughts and advice and I felt better. Then later my husband and I made up and it was all over. I thought.

A few days later, when I was in a "normal" headspace, I started to wonder if it was a mistake telling my friend about that argument I had with my husband. She started acting differently around him in social settings. She started reacting differently to me when I would share things about him to her. I began to realize that when I opened up to her about our earlier argument, it changed her perspective of him, and  that consequently had an impact on how we related to each other.

I immediately knew I made a mistake. But it couldn't be undone. I could only do damage control. It felt like when information during a trial comes out that the jury isn't supposed to know, and the judge tells the jury not to let it impact their opinion, but it is too late. The jury already heard/saw the information and it can't be undone.

Since then, I am painfully aware of all the times I confide in a "third-party" listener when I need someone to talk to about something I'm going through. Sometimes it is a coworker about a boss (very dangerous territory, I know). Sometimes it is an in-law about their sibling, my husband (also, very dangerous, I know!). Every time I do that, I am putting an extraordinary amount of trust in that listener to be decent and honorable with the information I share. My doing that also puts a huge burden on them, as well. 

             

I am not of the mindset that people shouldn't open up to their friends/loved-ones about the events of their lives. Of course it is necessary to be vulnerable in relationships and let people in. However, I do think that when you are in the moment, when emotions are high, maybe we aren't using our best judgement when we choose what to share and with whom. Especially when we haven't figured out ourselves how we feel and what action we want to take in the situation.

That's when I got the idea for rant. A place where people can safely talk about the things that are "dangerous" to talk to their friend/spouse/coworker about. The things that you just want someone to talk to about so you can work out how you feel and how you want to handle it. Having those conversations in your head isn't always enough, not for me, at least. I don't think I am alone in that.

Rant truly provides an objective listener, one who has no ties to you or your inner circle. They don't know who you are, they are nonjudgmental, and they are there to simply hear your side of the story and help you work through your thoughts.

Rant gives you a place to rant right. With the right listener.

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-CEO of Rant

Natalie Clark

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